The Choices We Make

Every man, other than God, is a judge of his own character and of others too, either a good one or a poor one. Sometimes, for want of momentary pleasure, we make certain choices, that lead to a lot of emotional baggage behind us, collateral damage ahead of us, repercussions for our actions and paranoia inside us. 
The choices we make happen either at an impulse, or after looking at things from all perspectives. 
If you make bad choices and just stick to them 'cause they've been a part of you, you lose a LOT of good people in your life. The people whom you deserve. 
You tend to lose your self-respect and guess what? You lose yourself too. 
You become fake, disgusting and selfish. 
You let people down. Sometimes, these thoughts make you feel suicidal. 
Believe me, I've been there. I've lost a lot of good people and I don't think I'm strong enough to handle everything in me. That's when the One above comes to you and makes you feel warm. Gives you another chance in life. Another chance to come back. 'Cause dudes and babes, you can't live your life in guilt and drown in it, 'cause you lost the better people you deserved. 
Now, if you make good choices, you'll neither have regrets nor lose people. Actually, wait. You do. The choices that are good for you may not be always good for others. You can't please the whole world. 
But you won't have regrets. You'll be happier within you. I mean real happiness. But when you do, please don't mess it up. 
The choices we make have their own results which may be seen in due time. They don't always define who you are, but do define who you're turning out to be. 
Important : If you see anyone who's really messed up, please go to them and help them to the best of your ability. Who knows, someday they'll need you and someday they'll return the favour. They've made bad choices and deep down, they want to change. 

Death

It's hard to see someone, whom you've been close to, leave the world. Sometimes, you're not able to fathom death, ' cause it's too sad to think about. Sometimes, you tend to question God as to how He can steal people away from you.
But, we aren't called to understand why God does things; we're instead called to stand for the fact that God does things. Death reminds us that life is too short to crib and cry about. We should instead take time to tell our loved ones that we love them. That might make their day, you see?
Let's face it. We're afraid of death. Afraid that it would come at us and take us away, from the world we've become attached to.
Afraid of us dying by slit throats, slit wrists, bullets in our body, water in our lungs,  cancer, AIDS, blah blah. Even dying in our sleep scares us.
But. But but but. We cannot let death snatch our chances of showing people who we are and how certain people are important. That is why, we are advised to enjoy our life and utilize every moment of it. Not in a bad way, but in a way that the good things about us would be inscribed on our epitaphs.
Death just says that our time is done,on the earth. But when you believe that there is a place out there, a beautiful one, where you shall go after you die, thus making your life eternal, and you'll be with someone who loves you unconditionally, God - it's relieving. The best part : we want our loved ones to come along too. But, in Job's words : "Naked I came from my mother's womb and naked I shall depart.  The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away."
It is said that 'sleep is temporary death, but death is permanent sleep.' So, we shouldn't be afraid of death. Not while we're here, carving our niches and doing what we're supposed to do. 

Living in denial - Painful on realisation

                       You hear people telling that they hate Justin Bieber, One Direction, and like Linkin Park  Eminem, and all rap and hip-hop, but you do listen to the songs of those songs whom the people hate(and in addition to that, you like house ,pop rock and Bollywood songs too.) You tell them that you hate them and pretend to do so, so as to gain their approval.
                      People hate Twilight(Edward Cullen does look weird though :P, with the paleness), and love Harry Potter , while in reality , you've read all the books of Twilight , while you didn't read all the books of Harry Potter.
You gain their approval by trying to read the books ,but sleeping midway, and instead, go to Wikipedia for information.
                      You used to play video games when you were small, left it for a while, then realised, that boys liked girls who played video games like God of War, Call of Duty , soccer , Pokemon and all that. At least liked girls who showed their support for those.You start doing what people like to do, though you do enjoy that too, eventually.
                       You see people liking your best friends, siblings and relatives for their success in sports, while you're good in only studies and few other stuff. So in order to gain their approval, you try your chance in sports too, but end up hurting yourself, on realising that you're not able to do it.
                       You tell people that you hate makeup and that you hate shopping , but the truth is, you do put a bit of eye pencil and like shopping for yourself and for your friends at least, but hate it when you have to wait for so long.
                       People like tomboys. So, you try being one, by trying to learn football or cricket , or rather watch the sport for the sake of their approval. Whereas , in reality, you're just a girl, comfortable with anything, except heels and long gowns, and admit it, you sleep mid way during matches. :P

                      I can continue, but the list won't end. 'Cause if you've done at least one of them, in the end, you've succeeded in doing one thing : living in denial of what you really are. And when you do realise it, it's too late. You've already undergone depression and all stuff, so as to change yourself.
                     


^THAT, was the story of my life, for 5 years, until today.
If that's your case too, then, as Jordan Taylor says in Blimey Cow, "You're doing it wrong."
God loves you for who you are, regardless of what people think about you.

So, let people know who you really are.
Most importantly, love yourself for who you really are.

Just correct those parts of you that NEED correction.
Remember, The world will show its real self towards you, once you show the world the real you.

#experience #truestory

Valentine's Day Special!

Ah! February 14th has come back, yet once again. 

The day of love. Pssht. Why only one day to express love? Don't we express it 24x7? Through small gestures and kind words? Yes, we are. And indirectly, we are showing people the existence of God , in us,through love, as it is said in 1 John 4:12 in the Bible. 

Coming to the date, Feb 14th , and the entire Valentine's week as well, instills in peoples' minds , the need to impress the people whom they adore and like very much,regardless of the fact that the best way is to just be simple, and that this can be done any day. What if you would have to wait a whole year again to propose to him/her? He or she would've gotten committed, betrothed, married or most probably, would have had kids by then. 

Also, on this day, while many people finally get to express their feelings, and fortunately do get the people they've always adored , many people on the other hand, either get dumped by their lovers, or are separated from their spouses , or just happen to lose their virginity with the overflow of hormones in them. 

So couples, married or dating, have fun today, but stay safe. :) 

And singles, instead of brooding over the fact that you're lonely on Valentine's Day, try pouring out your love on someone who needs it the most, as in right now. Who knows? One among them , might just be your Valentine! :) 

Now, I conclude, by wishing all of you a Happy Valentine's Day. :) 
May God show you the love you need today. 
Amen.