They make you undergo a roller-coaster ride of emotions. A plethora of them.They test whether you can be trusted or not. Some fail miserably and some become stronger with the passage of time. Yes, I'm talking about relationships. But not just romantic ones. Even the strongest of friendships can break easily, due to some reason or no reason at all.
My good friend who despises seeing depressing stuff over her Facebook page, including my "sometimes" love sick posts, while talking it out with me, quoted Oscar Wilde , "Life is far too important a thing ever to talk seriously about. " It's not that she was being harsh or something. In fact, she was saying the right thing. I had realised that while I was introspecting myself and about my life.
But, at this period of life, i.e , the teenage period, for us , actually most of us, we have the tendency not to differentiate among like , crush, infatuation, lust and love. We misunderstand the friendships we share with the opposite sex as we think they finally care for us in THAT sense, as we're always blinded by the world of fantasy.
I don't only mean Twilight, The Vampire Diaries, Gossip Girl, Grey's Anatomy and so on. Since childhood, we've been a victim of fantasy by believing that one day, our Prince Charming will come on a white horse and saves us , the damsels in distress, from our world of suffering. Or, by believing, that our Dream Girl will come in a beautiful gown and will turn us diffident boys into valiant men. And , by believing that with our partner, we'll live happily ever after. The End.
Well, I shall share some parts of my life to you readers. Till now, I've had 8 failed romantic relationships , 3 of which are rebound types, like you know, dating that person so as to get over my ex, and the other 5, actual serious ones. I'm dating my ninth boyfriend right now. People seeing this will automatically be judgmental, won't they? They'll think that I've dumped them , reason being that they don't satisfy my desires, sexual or anything else for that matter. The world doesn't see the other way round. When I needed them, they showed me the middle finger.They in turn, spoiled my reputation telling other people that I'd proposed to them, but the truth was actually the other way round. They needed me for my body. They did love me, but its their parents who spoilt the relationship! My parents did not mind me having a relationship at all. Such kind of people don't have a proper spine in their back to go through the trials and tribulations of a relationship, and in turn, fail to support the girl/guy they are in a relationship with. But finally, I'd found someone who actually can fight for me and love me the way I am. And I'll feel bad if I don't give my all to him.
With all the lessons I'd learnt in the previous relationships, it was hard getting over people , it was hard letting go of them. But when time passes by, your mind, subconsciously lets go of the pain you'd suffered in relationships and help you move on well. :) But some people like to brood over their past , and thus the lovesick , forlorn posts on Facebook. People,grow up.
Those who are single, enjoy the most of it, while making sure that your Dream Girl or Prince Charming is waiting for you, you save yourself for her or him. Those who are a couple now, all the best for your relationship and do make sure that you're loyal to each other. Those who don't believe in love,you may not realise it, but you ARE in love already. With life, with your family, with your friends, and with yourself. Those who've just broken up, I'm sorry for the loss, but attempting to commit suicide doesn't help. I've not tried, yet I've dreamt about it. So I know the feeling. Time and God, without your knowledge, will heal the pain in you soon. :)
Since the topic regarding romantic relationships was so long, I'll write about the relationships with friends in my next post, so that I don't bore you too much here! :D :P
But I do like to conclude by saying, once you think about your past, that'll become a parasite, sucking the life out of you, but once you get over it, and work towards making your present better than your past, the past will just be nothing but a memory. :)
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